Sunday, 23 December 2012

FOMO

Well, we are settling into our second day in Florida! We checked into our resort around 3am on Friday night, and yesterday was spent shopping for Christmas presents, eating and drinking and running up a tab in the bar with my family, and taking my cousins on a midnight trip to the beach to play touch football. It's a little chillier (about 12 degrees C, or 54 F) than we would like, but we are hoping it will warm up tomorrow!

One of the things that I've noticed is an acute feeling of FOMO affecting all members of my family. FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out, is a term I heard for the first time last year when I was working as an RA. It's the feeling you get when it seems like everyone else is off doing cool things and you're missing out. There are 35 members of my family staying at this resort, and because our Canadian wireless providers charge us an arm and a leg for roaming fees, we're having a hard time tracking where everyone is. Which leads to us all feeling like we are being left out of a potentially awesome activities.

It's so stupid, of course. The same thing happened four years ago, and by the third day, we had all found a rhythm and were able to figure out where most people would be at any given time. And this year, my cousins and I can use iMessage by connecting to the resorts WiFi.

This whole situation reminds me so much of being back in college. I think that the invention of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are partially responsible for this phenomenon, because it's so easy to see what everyone else is doing and feel like whatever you're doing isn't cool/exciting/mature enough. On this trip, I'm trying to remember that the first priority is to spend time with my family, whether that's on the beach, in the bar, or at the mall, and I'm trying to stop worrying if anyone else is off waterskiing or deep sea fishing!


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  1. Ahhh! FOMO! My whole life is FOMO. It was much worse when I was in my early-mid twenties. Now it's not as bad. I've pretty much cut myself off from facebook except for contacting specific people-- otherwise scrolling down my newsfeed leads to feeling left out of things that I'm actually not left out of.

    The title of Mindy Kaling's book captures this feeling nicely: "Is Everyone Hanging out Without Me? (And Other Concerns)"

    Also-- saw you're hooked on the Nashville soundtrack, too. I. just. can't. stop!

    Hope the rest of your holiday vacation is great. Happy New Year!

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    1. I LOVE Mindy Kaling! And it's so true. I think that what I have to realize is that most of the time, I am doing exactly what I'd like to be doing, regardless of what other people are up to. I may not be getting my masters degree, but I am travelling, or vice versa. Everyone has their priorities!

      Nashville = amazing!

      I hope your holiday is great as well!!!

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