Wednesday, 10 April 2013

Apartment hunting is the worst

I just want an apartment that looks like this...that's not too much to ask, right?

I haven't been able to blog in the last few days because I have just been the biggest bundle of stress! I've been trying to find an apartment in Toronto, and it is hard. Almost as hard as applying for jobs (a torture I don't wish on anyone). Not only is everything REALLY expensive, it seems impossible to find a place that meets our criteria for safety, cleanliness and parking spots. That's not even mentioning being remotely close to the actual city---the Greater Toronto Area seems to extend as far north as Barrie, or almost 100km north of downtown. 

The other struggle is how many people are involved in the decision. There's my roommate, who has her own requirements in a living space. Then there are the landlords and realtors in charge of the places. Then there is my father, who I need to justify costs to, as he'll be the one subsidizing if (god forbid) I lost my job. All of the people involved make it that much more challenging, because they are all out of my control. Even if I LOVE a place, I still need to wait on at least 3 other people before I can lock it down. It is a perfect recipe for a stressed out Alex! 

Anyway. I think we may have found something, and I'm hopeful. I feel as though my shoulders, which have been hovering around my ears, have had a small weight lifted off of them. I'm crossing my fingers that everything works out. 

I think that because things have been going so well (great job, great sublet, great roommate) I forgot how to deal with any kind of prolonged stress. I found myself having a minor meltdown after the second person yelled at me today (seriously, how do you expect to sell anything by yelling at people??) and I had to force myself to remember a few things I learned about dealing with stress in college:

1. I have to eat. 
This is the #1 contributor to my bad moods and general crankiness. It's so tempting to skip meals in order to "save time", but I always, always pay for it in headaches and a decreased ability to handle things like a rational human being.

2. I have to sleep.
The reasons for this are almost identical to the ones above. 

3. I have to trust that I am capable of handling disappointment.
It's so easy for me to get caught in a spiral of "What if's" and "If only's" and to try to "logic" my way out of a problem. I forget that my brain is smarter than I give it credit for, and can handle disappointment and rejection better than I think. I get worried about being disappointed that I forget that I am a natural optimist. No matter how things turn out, I will make the best of any situation. 

Now that things have (hopefully) calmed down, I still want to keep these things in mind! I'm sure that actually moving will bring about challenges of it's own :)

Have any of you guys had to deal with the ordeal of apartment hunting? How did you deal with it? 


  1. Aw, I'm sorry to hear things have been so stressful lately! Apartment hunting is major headache-inducing (although my experiences have been much easier than yours). Remember to take time for yourself! I always find it really important to schedule some movie nights, a mid-day naptime, or time to read. It's integral to my sanity!! Haha :)

  2. Great attitude! We should all be positive in all situations including apartment hunting. Remember that to persevere means to succeed so hang in there!

  3. Ugh, the only thing worse than the day of the physical move is the weeks of stress leading up to finding WHERE to move! I sympathize with your stress-- having all of those other factors up in the air makes it all the more difficult. I don't know what Toronto's rental market is like, but I'll give you some advice I've followed in Chicago, just in case it's similar. If you can, take a weekend or a few days with your roommate to actually walk through the neighborhoods you are interested in-- look for "for rent" signs in smaller buildings that look like they may be independently owned. Write down the name & phone #s of places you might like and call when you get home (or call when you're there-- sometimes if they're home, they'll let you see the space right away). I've always had the best luck both in terms of price and space when dealing one-on-one with a landlord who owns just that one building than I have with big leasing or management companies. Bonne chance, my dear!